Saturday, April 14, 2007

It is none of your business



Why do people make it their business if a woman wears the hijjab or not?? It goes both ways.

I always hear about how women in hijjab are treated badly. At stores they are not helped, at the malls they are stared at, some have been even spit on, and yelled at. Many see the hijjab as a sign on oppression, which is not! I have heard people being told you are living in the west now you do not have to wear a scarf. This was told to American converts who have lived in the states all their lives.
Even after told that they chose to wear the hijjab, and were not forced to wear it by her male relatives, some still make it their business and will not let it go. It is a piece of cloth for god’s sake; it is on her head not yours. Why do you make it your business, let it go for god’s sake! If it is a hot summer day, she is the one wearing it and if she is hot, it is her problem not yours! Just let it go!
I not understand why people are so bugged by this; they should be used woman covering their heads by now, since there are Muslims everywhere.

The same goes for hijjabis. I do not wear the hijjab; sometimes I am not the most modestly dressed person in the world, but still nowhere near Britney Spears outfits. It should not be anyone’s business whether I wear the hijjab or not. I have not really had any problem from Arabs, many of my friends cover and we still hang out and we are good friends. But I have met few reverts who will not have anything to do with me because well yeh I do not wear the hijjab. And who is to say that a person in hijjab is better those not veiled?? I know many girls who wear the hijjab that do not pray or fast; they just wear it because everyone else is or because their parents want them to.

I was reading a forum and one girl said how she wants to scream when she sees Muslim not veiled and blah blah blah, and how annoying it is blah blah blah…well seriously relax! What is it to you?? It is none of your business really whether I chose to show my hair or cover it. My head is mine, and your head is yours, you do what you want and I’ll do what I want, and we all answer to Allah. And im so sick of older women telling me that I should not be wearing what I am wearing, and then they go to say how they used to dress like that when they were my age but now regret it, that is just annoying. It does not make me want to go throw out all my short sleeve shirts and buy a more modest wardrobe, so really there is no point to their advice. La tahdi man a7babt, ina Allah yahdi man yasha’ , and who knows maybe one day inshallah.

5 comments:

nido said...

Ameeen :D "some have been spit on"?!?! you serious?! As for me, before coming here, many ppl back home thought I'd take my hijab off once I leave...they were like" WHY NOT!?!" It's really no one's business but mine!
So far, and il hamdillah, I've never been treated differently because I cover, bil 3ax, some ppl around at the mall would raise their thumbs up pointing at my scarf, and some other ppl would give me nice comments:D Allah yihdeena ajma3eeen, no body is perfect...

who-sane said...

yes it shouldn't be anyone's business what a girl does with her hair or even her clothes, but within certain boundaries of course, and with respect to people and the culture of the city you're in.

Sam said...

nido , i do not personally know anyone who has been spit on..but i heard it from freinds..but know someone who's car doors got spit on the whole thing was sooo wet..disgusting! good for u for sticking with your hijjab! :o)

Who-sane yeh of course there are boundaries we have adhere to, but what is modest to someone's standard might not be to others...and people will always judge others...

Mrs. Al Ramahi said...

well when one wears hijab, she should be convinced or else in whatever way she does this, she will never ever do it the right way.. and there are places even here in jordan, ive heard about places were they treat you differently,or might even not let you in!

I wore the hijab recently, and it is a bad feeling when you are treated differently for your decision(it didnt happen to me alhamdulillah).. but when u make the right decision and the surroundings wherever just dont help and make you look at it as if you are so wrong, or as if you don't belong, it hurts. I just don't understand why they do this.

Sam said...

mr al ramahi, it takes some getting used to eh..wearing the hijjab...one day i want to wear it and go out..just to see what reaction i get..:)