Hubby and fasting....

I used to love and enjoy Ramadan, but not so much anymore!!

My husband is a smoker (eww) and a coffee guzzler....for the first few year of our marriage he did not fast....I kept on encouraging him to fast...and for the past few years he has been fasting...WHAT HAVE I DONE??

You would think he is the only person that fasts in the world...we have not had a bomb blowing for no reason because he is dying for a smoke lately....he is actually in a good mood...but he complains so much!! All day...he calls me from work at home or on my cell..when he gets home, when he wakes up from his nap, at 4 am when I am in the middle of a dream at 6 am before he leaves to work....is it October yet?

He does not get much sleep because he has to wake for su7oor...not to eat mind you...he might eat bit of food but not much...he drinks coffee and smokes...then he leaves to work at 6am...(YIPPY) but he is home at 3pm (ugggghhhhhhhhh)...he goes up to the bedroom , puts the door knob thingie on the door so Bolbol will not go in to tell him to waaate uuupppp.....Ziad is making him a "do not disturb sign".

..then he wakes up an hour before iftar and he wonders why the kitchen is a mess?? hmmmmmm I am in the middle of cooking...go away...yesterday he wanted to help clean up the kitchen....and was in my way and annoying the heck out of me..I finally reminded him of his flowers that need watering and he was out of my hair...phew!

A bit before Iftar he goes to Tim Hortons and gets and extra large cup of coffee to drink after he eats....coffee makes him stay up....so he does not go to bed until late..so he is only getting few hours of sleep before he is up for so7oor...and of course him not sleeping at night = me not getting much sleep...I am so tired already from lack of sleep...I will use that "do not disturb sign" on my door from now on...or make a no talking sign in the bedroom...or go hide somewhere and sleep where no chatty husband will come wake me up....

I am not fasting this Ramadan...I am pregnant...I have very little appetite and eating very little as it is, everyone is saying I have lost weight..although my scale is 6lb up from what it was back in April...so fasting is not good for me...I get nauseous and light headed when I do not eat for more than 3hrs...and I still feel guilty for fasting when my son was three months old and my milk supply dried up...ok formula made him much fatter than my milk would have ever done...and he is still pretty smart ..but still! So people leave me alone...I do not care if you are also pregnant and fasting...to each his own...I do not need your lectures....!

Ziad is fasting this Ramadan....soom el3asfoora as his teetah calls it....he comes from school at 4:00, eats a sandwich , a glass of milk, some fruits and drinks water...that is his su7oor and he fasts until iftar time...he gets so hungry and o so thirsty..his throat hurts, his tummy hurts...and he is so tired or so he claims..but the minute the neighbours kids are outside playing he feels all better and ready to go out....and the minute we say ok iftar time..he jumps to his food like he has not eaten for days!!

O and Ramadan Mubarak to everyone....I hope everyone is coping well with the long fasting hours.....

a walk back in time...

This past weekend we went to a pioneer village in TO. It was fun...Bilal enjoyed running around..Ziad was fasinated by everything from the sheep shearing, the tiny school house and the tin maker...I wish I could say the same for hubby, he was bored out of his mind! He had nothing good to say...what? they call this history...let them come and look at our history...blah blah blahhhhh....if I had a weapon he would have been gone..I only had the daggers in my eyes to shoot him with!

Few weeks ago we went to the ROM (Royal ontario museum) Ziad and I were fasinated running from one exhibit to another, talking about the mummies, the pots the statues and looking at the dinosaurs. Bilal and hubby were about to fall asleep from boredom...(note to self, never take hubby and Bilal along to things like this)

I love history, I almost majored in history but my parents convinced me not to , so now it is just a hobby..I love reading about how people lived 100-1000000 years ago....it is so interesting. I love reading novels that have a historical setting....

After the poineer village on sunday night on our way home we decided to stop by the airport and show the kids the planes landing up close....It was great...so cool...there is a gas station right across from the run way planes land on...if you stand in one spot the planes come right over your head, it is very fasinating...the kids had a blast watching the planes come so close over their heads....so many planes land in Toronto airport...a plane landed every 3min or so...small tiny jazz planes , medium planes, huge planes...The kids want to go to the airport everyday now!

A drive across canada

Yay Hubby is on his way home ,he is going to be driving for a bit over 36hrs!!!


He left yesterday morning...drove for almost 12hrs and slept in Kenora, he is driving across Ontario as we speak, he will drive for 12.5hrs then he will spend the night in a town/city called Wawa! what a name eh? Maybe Haifa bateekh was singing about it...boos elwawa..ya bayi ma aznakhni!!!:o/ (Haifa not me)...Tomorrow morning he will leave Wawa and drive 12 more hrs and get home...

He should be here tomorrow night inshallah:) He is going to kill me! My new daily shopping expiditions have changed, instead of clothes, shoes and other accessories I have been buying stuff for our house, a new mirror, new vases, new this and new that, I still have so much more to buy, a new rug, new curtains, some more art work, a TV, and o so much more!! Well you can not blame me, after living in ugly houses and not being able to buy fine things for over two years I have all this built up need to buy house accessories! But my house is starting to look nicer, it just needs to be painted, but that has to wait until the summer! My last purchase was a black mirror and plastic plant/tree(I can not get a real one because Bilal will kill it within a day!), and they look so cute! I can not stop looking and admiring them! I know I am weird!

Yeh back to hubby coming home! What should I cook for him?? ma'loobi?? m7amar jaj? kabseh?? ah decisions, decisions!

Yay one more day of sleeping in bed alone! Ok not really the kids have been joining me in bed sometime in the middle of the night! It is so annoying! Little feet kicking me, little hands slapping me, comforter hoggers, I have four pillows on my bed, they have to use mine! they even use me as a pillow at times! It is parent abuse I tell ya! I am going to start locking my room!

snow, gym, driving ....

I have not posted for a while...I wanted to, but my complaints, rants and rambles (although they are all valid) seemed silly when everyone is posting about Gaza and more serious matters. But lets face it, I am not an issue blogger and probably will never beL


This morning my alarm went off at 6:45am, I have it set to 99.9fm so if there any school closure due to the weather I would know before I get up. We had yet another snow storm on Tuesday, but schools were open on Wednesday, it was still snowing on Wednesday morning. Transportation was cancelled so of course Ziad didn't go to school! Even I wanted to drive him to school I would not be able to; I had 20cm of snow on my driveway.


Since I have been back 1mo and 1wk ago I have had to shovel snow at least 7times!! My house is on a corner lot! It is great I get plenty of lights, I can see all directions from my house but I have a huge side walk to shovel snow off! AH my poor poor back! It took me two hours to shovel my single car driveway, while doing it I was thankful that we did not buy the bigger house with a two car driveway! So finally I had everything cleared, people will not curse at me when they walk on the sidewalk, no one will sue me for falling on my driveway and we are good!


Now I have a huge dilemma! We are expecting another storm on Saturday, 10-15cm of snow! Great no problem I am all stocked up on food and will be out shopping on Friday, shovelling the snow is no problem I am so used to it now , and it is a good exercise so no biggie! But I have a 4 foot pile of snow around the driveway! Where am I going to put the new snow???? Unless by some miracle a few inches of snow melt off those piles by Saturday shovelling snow will be even harder!


In this one month and one week I have shovelled more snow that I have in my 30some years living on this earth! I am so buying a snow blower! BUT I am sure once we buy one it will stop snowing! This has been one crazy year!


OK snow post is over...but I am not done "talking"


I finally joined a gym!! I joined on Saturday and so far I have worked out 2x! I figured I did not need to go to the gym yesterday since I got my workout from 2hrs of shovelling snow. Today I am super sore! My arms are sore from shovelling and my legs are sore from my lower body workout on Tuesday so I figured today I will rest my muscles. So yay! I am on a roll...I hope I can make it to the gym 4x next week! Although I have two kids to put at the small child minding room since it is March break next week, but it is ok.


The gym I joined is inside the superstore! Pretty dangerous for me considering that I am a shopaholic, so unless I need to pickup some milk or other groceries I am going to leave my wallet in the car! Ok yeh whatever! We are screwed!


Hubby is planning on leaving Saskatoon next Saturday! He is driving here since he has to bring his car, the million books we have there and other stuff. We are praying for good weather and please please no snow! It is a 3000KM drive I believe, about 30hrs driving. He will be stopping for the night in three different cities, driving about 9hr/day. I wish I could go there and then we drive together, but I do not want the kids missing too much school, they have already missed too much and I am sure my mom will be pulling her hair if I leave the kids with her for 5 days!:( O well...inshallah everything will be ok for him!

Ramadan Mubarak!!

Yay it is my first Ramadan in an Arabic country...I am so exited!!

Anything I should know about Ramadan here...I do not want to have someone yell at me for not wearing the hijjab during Ramadan...:o)

Zozo said he will fast until noon prayer....but he is so worried that he will be so hungry, what he can do then....

I remember what a horrible time my brother had fasting until 12pm on weekends...ya3ni he just missed breakfast, but he drove us crazy! He kept on asking if it is 12pm yet, and we would answer no it is only 8am,8:15,9:00,9:05...by 10am we wanted to shove food down his throat so he would leave us alone!

OMG hubby is the worst in Ramadan though! Since he is a smoker, each Ramadan we come to the verge of divorce!:) He is so annoying, rude, mean, and so blah, did I mention annoying! He wakes up for suhor, but he does not eat, just smokes and drinks coffee...if he misses his suhor he is even worse! He goes to work early and comes home at 3-4pm and just sleeps until iftar. He starts his iftar with...yup you guessed it! A cup of coffee and a cigarette! SMOKERS!!

Poor guy, he will be all alone this Ramadan! I am sure he will get invited to iftar by our friends, but still, it is not the same! But he will be here the last week of Ramadan so it is not too badJ

missing

why living with a smoker sucks

Forget about the second hand smoke. The stinky clothes that I have to wash everyday. The constant worries you have about your loved one’s health. The added expense of cigarettes; they cost $12/pack now and hubby promises that he will not stop smoking even if it reaches $1000/pack. The burns on my carpet and car seat (I am so killing hubby for that), and the disgusting ashtray sitting on my balcony.

No none of the above are as annoying as hearing ween elwla3a? (where is the lighter?) at least 5x a day, more on weekends. I mean seriously hubby is the one who lit the cigarette with it, why should I know where he put in when he wants to smoke again. Sometimes I get asked this question in the morning while I am in bed AFTER he has smoked his first morning cigarette. He has at least 7 lighters at home, few in the car some at work and still he manages to lose them all! I am going to get him one of those latches, like the one used for babies on the pacifier, to put around his neck with a lighter stuck to it.